We can make our plans, but the Lord determines our steps
Proverbs 16:9
Love Is Not Prejudice
So I recently made a list of topics I wanted to blog about. Homosexuality was towards the bottom, but today I’m in the mood to discuss it, so now I’ve moved this particular subject to the top. I think the main reason why is because this weekend, I was listening to some old CD’s of mine and I came across Jennifer Knapp’s greatest hits. I decided to google her and see what she’s been up to. I was already aware that she had come out of the closet a few years ago, but I hadn’t really read up on it until now. It disappointed me the way some “Christians” reacted to her finally revealing her personal choice, struggles, and current state. Some so-called, Christ-following people bashed her to no end and swore off her music, past, present and future. A lot of individuals were horrified and disgusted that they had ever owned a CD of hers. I think that is ridiculous, and I’m not just talking in terms of this particular artist.
As I have already made clear in previous posts, I believe in God and He rules my heart. At a point in my younger years, I dated and hooked up with more than necessary individuals, male AND female. I don’t expect to go to hell for those decisions because I know my Lord has unending love for me. I wouldn’t choose a same-sex relationship for myself now because I found my soulmate, but what if I felt the EXACT same way I feel about Rafa towards a woman? My feelings would be completely genuine and deserving of marital credit, just as they are now. I personally believe that real and unconditional love should not be denied to anyone.
For “Christians”, or anyone for that matter, to judge and shun those who cannot help whom they love is completely hypocritical and selfish. Its hypocritical because the Bible tells us to love even our enemies, yet we can’t even acknowledge same-sex couples? Just because a man is with another man or a woman finds herself in love with another woman doesn’t mean they’re evil, sexually-disturbed, orgy-obsessed predators. They can have goals, aspirations, and their own respectful convictions. Homosexuals can also have a relationship with God, sometimes an even stronger one than most self-proclaimed “Jesus freaks”. What should matter more than their sexual orientation is the merit of their character. It may sound cliche, but seriously, don’t judge a book by it’s cover. Walk the path you’re preachin’ about, man.
Another reason why I think it hypocritical to hate same-sex couples is because America’s own Constitution says that there is supposed to be “separation of church and state”. Honestly, the main reason why gay marriage has not been legalized in the U.S. is because it is still considered “unnatural” in God’s eyes. If we are supposed to keep our religious inclinations and political rules apart, why hasn’t gay marriage been legalized yet? So you choose to marry a different sex or not marry at all, that’s your personal and private business. Don’t force it on anyone else. I wouldn’t force my belief in God on anyone, nor would I tell another person that they are wrong for loving the person that they love. That is just so wrong and disrespectful.
Secondly, I say that hating homosexuality is selfish because it completely disregards a group of peoples’ feelings and choice of living. It’s not like they’re hurting anyone else. The majority of gay couples have lasted longer, without being married, than some of today’s celebrity’s fake and pointless marriages. How is it that we can consider Kim Kardashian’s immature marriage to Kris Humphries real, but not a same-sex couples’ that has lasted twice as long and been filled with ten times more genuine adornment? I think we should focus more of our frustrations and energy into getting dangerous drugs, pimps, killers, or robbers off the street. That seems like a much more meaningful and positive action than fighting a prejudice battle against helpless homosexuals, who deserve the same consideration as any other person in the world.
I don’t like the thought of children being raised in a world that teaches unconditional love, but with a few conditions. If you’re going to love, do it fully, without pointing fingers or choosing which group of people deserve your respect. You feel it, spread it, express it, all within a mature, courteous manner. If that concept was grasped more firmly, I think we would all be a lot happier.
This blog post is not to spit my opinions in anybody’s face. I rarely discuss this topic, unless asked, because I understand it is a touchy one for some people. You probably won’t find me at a gay pride parade or waving a rainbow flag anywhere, but I also would never picket at a gay-friendly event, condemning homosexuals to hell. No one has that power accept God, so why should anyone else act as a judge? This topic is important to acknowledge because it has an affect on this world’s future and today’s society. Those who have legitimate reasons behind supporting gays need to make there voices audible for those who are not being given the opportunity to speak at all.
I do realize that my personal stance on gay rights may offend some people, but I won’t apologize because we are all entitled to our own beliefs. No one can say that I’m going about my projection in a disrespectful way. I know that for whatever reason, I was compelled to write this entry today and I highly doubt I’ll regret it. If anyone thinks I should feel differently, you’re always welcome to let me know, but don’t expect to sway me. I don’t talk out of my ass. I think about topics for a long time before I choose a side, if any. I also try to put myself in others’ shoes and can take into account personal experiences. This mindset may be difficult for some, but it doesn’t have to be.
sarapysessions asked: sorry it cut me off! and I got asked a bunch of times if I was pregnant. I was so hurt, upset and angry. It made my relationship with food even more unhealthy as I just viewed it as the enemy. I obviously don't know what position you are in, but I just wanted to say that you don't have to punish yourself for the way you look. You are beautiful no matter what!! Please always remember that. You will get to where you want to be eventually through love towards yourself. Thanks again for the adds xo
Thank you, thank you, thank you! That means so much! You’re a great encouragement (: I appreciate your words more than you know <3
